After getting her master’s in clinical psychology, Dasha Kiper began to look after a Holocaust survivor with middle-stage Alzheimer’s. For a year, she lived with the emotional strain of caregiving, learning at firsthand how disorienting and painful it can be to look after a person whose condition blatantly disregards the rules of time, order, and continuity. Based on the subsequent decade she has spent counseling caregivers of dementia patients, Kiper offers an entirely new approach to understanding the relationship between patients and those tending to them. Anyone taking care of a family member with dementia knows how difficult it can be, but Kiper explains why it is difficult, why the caregiver’s mind often mirrors the irrationality, denial, and rigidity that typically characterize the patient's behavior.