You’ve heard the story: two people see each other from across the bar. They move towards each other, chat each other’s faces off, and within months, they are in love and talking about their futures. But with time, affectionate words turn into pointing fingers, and petty arguments reach a breaking point. What went wrong? And how can we ensure this will never happen again? In It's Not Me, It's You, therapists and long-term partners John Kim and Vanessa Bennett dissect their own relationship to help readers figure out theirs: what their relationships were like in the past, what traumas they carried into the new relationship, and how they work on growing together to foster a healthy and long-term bond. This book is for anyone looking for real advice on relationships that takes both sides into account and discusses relationships with the honesty and clarity we all need.